How to get coaching clients online without cold DMs

"...you don't actually need 10,000 people. You just need a handful of real conversations." Samantha Siffring, business coach for moms

Start with how soon you need a client

Find your row. Do the middle column and ignore the rest for now.

Luisa Zhou has taught more than 4,000 coaches. She says a first client usually takes two to four weeks this way. That's a fair target for your first month, though nobody can promise it.

What counts as a cold DM

A cold DM is a sales message to a stranger who didn't ask for it. That's all you're giving up. Plenty of private messages are fine:

• Someone who knows you
• Someone a friend introduced you to
• Someone who replied to you in a group
• Someone who asked you a question

Here's a quick test before you send a sales message: do they know me, or did they ask? If both answers are no, don't send it.

You won't miss much. Greg Faxon has run a coaching business for over 10 years, and he sorted 21 ways of getting clients by how they went for him. Cold outreach landed in his waste-of-time pile. Software has made it worse, too. Tim Brownson, a coach since 2005, gets at least six messages a day written by AI tools that pretend to know him. He says that kind of message does not work, and he tells coaches not to send them.

Write one clear line first

People lie awake over the meeting where they froze on Monday. Talk about that. The International Coaching Federation counts about 123,000 professional coaches in the world, so the word "coach" won't help anyone pick you. Fill in this line instead:

I help [who] [get what they want] without [what they dread].

• "I help new managers run a team without working every weekend."
• "I help parents of teens end the nightly homework fight."
• "I help nurses move out of bedside jobs without starting over."

Now check it against real words. Read 20 posts from the people you want to help, and copy their exact phrases into a note. If they say "I can't switch off," don't write "work-life integration." Past clients' emails, and the forms they filled in when they started, are good for this too.

Put your line at the top of every profile you have. If you sell advice to companies more than you coach people, the steps for how to get clients as a consultant are close to these.

Step 1: Tell people who already know you

Samantha Siffring says this is the top way new coaches land a first client, and also the step most people avoid. Make a list of 30 people. Think of old coworkers, classmates and anyone you've helped for free. Write to each one by name.

Ask for an introduction. That takes the pressure off you both.

To someone who might know a good fit:

"Hi Dana, I've started coaching new managers who feel out of their depth. I'm not asking you to sign up. Do you know one person who just got promoted and looks tired? I'd love to give them a free 30-minute call. No worries if nobody comes to mind."

To someone you've already helped:

"Hi Sam, you said our chat about your job search really helped. I'm doing this properly now, and I have room for two more people this month. Want to keep going? I can tell you how it works."

Then post once on the network where you know the most people. Say what you do, who it's for and that you're taking on a few clients. Zhou tells of a career coach who signed her first clients from one LinkedIn post like that.

Where you post depends on who you coach. LinkedIn is often the easiest place to reach career coach clients. Gym groups and weight-loss forums are a better bet for fitness coach clients.

Step 2: Pick one place and be useful there

Choose one Facebook group, Reddit community, LinkedIn group, Discord or WhatsApp group. The right one has people asking about your topic this week. Read its rules before you post.

Then show up every day. Zhou spent 15 minutes in Facebook groups, three times a day, while working a demanding full-time job. She says her first $5,000 client came out of this, after a few weeks of free help.

Here's what useful looks like. Say someone posts: "My boss keeps rewriting my work and I'm starting to doubt myself."

Don't write: "So sorry! I help people with exactly this. DM me!"

Do write: "That wears you down fast. Before your next one-on-one, ask your boss what 'done' looks like on one task, and write down the answer. If they still rewrite it, you'll have something specific to talk about. What kind of changes do they make?"

A few simple rules:

• Give away the useful part. You're showing people what it's like to talk to you.
• End with one question. That's how a chat starts.
• Leave out links. Put your line and your booking link in your profile, where curious people will look.
• Wait for them to ask. When someone asks how you work, you can move to a private message, because they asked.

Don't let one group become your whole business. Brownson got 12 clients from Reddit between 2024 and 2026. Over those years, only his newsletter brought him more. Then he got banned. So follow each group's rules, and invite the people you meet onto your own email list once you have one.

Step 3: Borrow an audience someone else built

Look for people who serve your clients but don't do what you do. A resume writer and a career coach fit well. So do a divorce coach and a family lawyer. They already have the trust you're trying to build.

"Hi Priya, I liked your post on resume mistakes. I coach people through career changes, so I think we help the same people at different stages. Could I run a free 30-minute session for your list on handling salary questions? You'd pick the date and see the outline first."

Yes, you may be writing to someone new. You aren't selling them anything, though, and they can say no in one line.

You spend your working day telling people to have the hard conversation. Then you spend 40 minutes rewriting two lines to a resume writer so you don't sound like you're selling anything. Send the message.

Two more ways to do this:

• Small podcasts and private groups. Say yes to interviews, even small ones. One interview for a paid members' group brought Brownson almost £10,000 in clients. He says people took him more seriously because they'd paid to be in that group.
• Guest workshops. Faxon says these work best in paid groups, because those people have already shown they'll pay for help.

Step 4: Offer a short call with one clear job

Everything above leads here. Keep it to 30 minutes.

Coaches run this call two ways. Zhou likes a taster: you give one small win, then ask. Siffring likes a discovery call: you both work out if you're a good fit. Pick one. Either way, say the plan out loud at the start:

"We've got 30 minutes. Let's get you one thing you can use this week. At the end, if it helped, I'll tell you how working together goes. If not, you still keep the one thing."

And at the end:

"That's the free part. I take people through this over three months for $X. Would you like to do that?"

Then stop talking. It's the hardest step in this whole guide.

Sell one package at one price, so you never have to invent an offer mid-call. Zhou's rule of thumb is that about ten of these calls should bring you a paying client. Keep the free part to this one call. Hours of free coaching mostly attract people who never planned to pay.

Make it easy to say yes when they look you up

Anyone who hears about you will check you out first. You don't need a big site for that. Zhou booked $20,000 in sales before she had a website, and she sent people her LinkedIn profile instead. One page or one good profile is enough if it has these:

• Your one clear line
• Who it's for, and who it isn't for
• One real client story
• How it works, and a rough price
• A link to book the call

Then add one question to your booking form: What's got you looking for help right now? Give people a few answers they can tap, and use what they tell you:

When people leave before they book

The people who fill in your form are the easy ones. Others read your page, feel unsure and close the tab, and you never hear why. That gap is why we built our own product, Possible, so keep in mind that we're biased. It's an AI built on real sales psychology. It asks each visitor the right question at the right moment, remembers what they say and guides them toward a booking. It's free to start, and here's more on our AI sales assistant for coaches and consultants. If only a few people see your page each month, do the steps above first.

See where it's stuck

Keep a simple sheet. Each week, count four things: helpful replies, real chats, calls and yeses. After two weeks, the gap tells you what to fix.

Keep the clients you win

Your past clients are the easiest people to talk to. Faxon's move when money is tight is a plain email asking how a past client is doing, and whether they'd like to work together again. In that same email, you can ask if they know someone who's stuck where they used to be.

Clients who stay are clients you don't have to find, so simple customer retention strategies pay off in coaching too. A check-in a month after the work ends is a good one to start with.

Ask for a client story right after a win, while they still feel it. Use their real words, and get their permission. Inventing testimonials or paying only for good ones is banned in the US.

What to save for later

These can all work. They just work better after you have clients and know what people want.

• An email list. Faxon puts his in the pile of things that make him money. Start it once you have a few clients. Kit has a free plan for up to 10,000 subscribers.
• Articles for Google. These pay off for coaches who stick with them, but they're slow. Zhou puts this at three to six months or more.
• Your own webinars. They take a lot of work, and people are tired of them. Teaching at someone else's event gets you in front of new people, and the host fills the room.
• Ads. Faxon only made Facebook ads work on people already on his list. He couldn't make money from ads shown to strangers.
• Paid directories. Bark charges a small fee for each introduction, so you can buy a few if you need calls now. Zhou warns that people on these sites often choose by price.

If you only coach online, skip Google Business Profile. Google says a business must meet customers in person to qualify.

Your first 14 days

1. Day 1: Write your one line. Read 20 posts and fix it using their words.
2. Day 2: Update your profile. Make your list of 30 people.
3. Days 3 and 4: Send your messages by name, a few at a time. Post once about what you do.
4. Day 5: Pick your one group and read its rules.
5. Days 6 to 10: Spend 30 minutes a day answering questions. Offer a call when someone asks how you work.
6. Day 7: Write to two possible partners and one small podcast.
7. Days 11 to 14: Run your calls. Fill in your sheet and fix the biggest gap.

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